Gray dogwood is the native shrub for the spot you want to stop thinking about. Cornus racemosa takes dry soil, wet soil, clay, shade, sun, and cold to Zone 3, which is a wider tolerance than almost any other shrub sold. It grows 10 to 15 feet tall and wide, spreading into a thicket, and fills in fast enough to be useful within three or four seasons.
Flat clusters of creamy white flowers open in late spring, later than the flowering dogwoods, and are followed in late summer by white berries on bright red stalks. Birds strip the fruit quickly, and the red stalks stay on for weeks after, which is the display most people remember.
Fall foliage turns dusty purple to maroon. The winter stems are the gray the plant is named for, and the whole thicket reads well against snow.
This is a hedgerow and screening plant rather than a specimen. It spreads steadily to form a colony, which is what makes it valuable for erosion control, property lines, and bird cover, and what makes it wrong for a small formal bed. Many bird species use gray dogwood for food and nesting cover. Deer will browse it.